Dating your husband
Everything from our sleep to our communication was affected once Ella joined our family, and we had to learn how to function in new ways as parents, without losing our connection as friends and lovers.
While our transition into parenthood hasn’t been perfect, our marriage has remained strong through this first year of parenthood.
It makes sense that it can be tempting to fall back into a relationship with your ex-husband.
After all, something drew you to him in the first place and in addition now you have memories, history and possibly children together.
For instance, if you always disagreed on whose family to spend holidays with or the way discipline should be handled with your kids, this is the time to hammer out those differences.
Forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean that what your ex did was OK, it just means you are choosing to work past the old issues and hurt and start over.
It can be confusing if your children have both parents under one roof for a week, then another breakup, then back together.
If you commit to being with your spouse again, really commit and make the changes necessary, in yourselves and in your relationship, to keep the relationship going.
While her entrance into our family was joyful, exciting and wonderful, it was also very different from what we had known as a couple before she arrived.
One of our secret weapons to keeping it that way is Date Night.
Michael and I have a consistent, nonnegotiable date night each week and it has helped us to stay connected throughout each season of our marriage.
Date other people if you want, and make the personal changes you both need to make in order to be better partners in the future. It's easy to slide right back into old habits, but remember that the relationship you two had before didn't work, so trying again with a fresh approach can be helpful.
Don't go right back to eating dinner in front of the TV. Go on dates with your ex the way you did when your relationship was new: out to dinner, the movies, long walks ... And there's no need to see each other every day -- slow down and enjoy the dating period.