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By talking on this subject we do not intend to make it more painful for some than it already is, but rather to draw some observations from our own marriage that might be of value to all of you—younger, older, married, or single.We pray for the blessings of the Lord to help us share something of our brief, ordinary, and sometimes tumultuous life together.For one thing, we are going to try to apply these little lessons we have learned to all of you—single or married. By the same token we also know that is easy to say and hard to do.For another thing, we fear that too many of you, especially the women in our student body, are too anxious about the subject already. Jeff: On the other hand, I know a few men around here who ought to be a little more anxious than they are. It’s hard because so much of our young life in the Church is measured on a precise time sequence. At twelve the young men are ordained deacons and the young women enter Mutual.Jeff: Yes, I was told on that fateful day in 1963 that with marriage I had come to the end of my troubles.I just didn’t realize which end they were speaking of.
She has an electric blanket on high for eleven months of the year. It matters while you’re here at the university and you should learn to use a budget right now—today—this moment. ; it buys no food; it wears no clothes; it is unhoused . Once in debt,[it] is your companion every minute of the day and night; you cannot shun it or slip away from it; you cannot dismiss it; . We have spoken on that here in this setting in earlier speeches-dev.
As we look back with you today, we realize we have probably rushed too many things and been too anxious and too urgent for too much of our life, and perhaps you are already guilty of the same thing. [and it] is within the reach of every couple, every person.
We probably all get caught thinking real life is still ahead of us, still a little farther down the road. Obviously, life for all of us began a long time ago—twenty-two years longer for us than for you—and the sand is falling through that hourglass as steadily as the sun rises and rivers run to the sea. “Soul mates” are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price. Kimball, “Marriage and Divorce,” Speeches of the Year (Provo, Utah: BYU Press, 1976), pp.
Pat: The last thing we want to do is sound self-righteous, so our first assurance is that our marriage is not perfect, and we have the scar tissue to prove it.
To quote my father, the rocks in Jeff’s head have not yet filled the holes in mine.
But for the rest of you, be calm, be patient, be happy with the season you are in. ) Jeff: Twenty-three— Pat: (Oh, woe is me, woe is me.) Jeff: Twenty-four— Pat: (Death, make me thine! ) Jeff: Well, that’s a little melodramatic, but not much. (I just throw that in as reassurance to you women out there who are dating men you can’t stand.) Jeff: I throw it in as reassurance to the men who can’t be stood!