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When it is right, it should be pursued, and for some that will be younger—or older—than others. That added another ten months, so I think it’s fair to say we didn’t rush things.
But don’t march to an arbitrary drummer who seems to be beating a frenzied cadence to the passing years. Jeff: Quite apart from the matter of school or missions or marriage or whatever, life ought to be enjoyed at every stage of our experience and should not be hurried and wrenched and truncated and torn to fit an unnatural schedule which you have predetermined but which may not be the Lord’s personal plan for you at all.
For one thing, we are going to try to apply these little lessons we have learned to all of you—single or married. By the same token we also know that is easy to say and hard to do.
For another thing, we fear that too many of you, especially the women in our student body, are too anxious about the subject already. Jeff: On the other hand, I know a few men around here who ought to be a little more anxious than they are. It’s hard because so much of our young life in the Church is measured on a precise time sequence. At twelve the young men are ordained deacons and the young women enter Mutual.
By talking on this subject we do not intend to make it more painful for some than it already is, but rather to draw some observations from our own marriage that might be of value to all of you—younger, older, married, or single.
I used to joke about LDS scripturalists who worried about the body temperature of translated beings. And if you will let it, your religion will protect you against financial despair as well. No greater financial protection can be offered you. It can be held high for the simple reason that it is not bent or bowed with the relentless burden of debt.Jeff: Yes, I was told on that fateful day in 1963 that with marriage I had come to the end of my troubles.I just didn’t realize which end they were speaking of.Jeff: So forgive us for using the only marriage we know, imperfect as it is, but for some time now we have wanted to reflect back on the half of our lives spent together since we were students at BYU and to see what, if anything, it might mean to you as you look ahead twenty-two years from now.Pat: Before you get up and leave, let me again reassure you that this isn’t going to be the usual BYU talk on matrimony, important as that is. Or, to be slightly more scriptural, get “anxiously engaged.” Pat: For all of the rest of you out there, women and men, we really believe romance and marriage, if they are going to come, will come a lot more naturally if you worry about them a lot less.
Pat: We are going to talk about some of the “before” and “after” of marriage—our marriage.