Unwritten dating rules
When it comes to dating, many people tie their self-worth to what others think of them or how other's treat them.
I asked a bunch of men and women, straight and gay, some questions about how they behave when dating online. Overall, men didn’t seem to care what they post, their profile pics or what women put, when they’re on dating apps they’re simply “on safari”. There’s also an attraction to assertiveness.” Said one of the guys I asked. Other than finding out who each other’s mutual friends are and where their aunt went on holiday last year.
As a result, a player will often move onto the next people they date with a kind of soulless and jaded approach.
This is just a defence mechanisms for the heartbreak the recently endured and has absolutely nothing to do with you.
The fact is, whether you do or don’t doesn’t seem to affect how men feel about you. There is no real way to avoid or read this situation.
Why deprive yourself, if they like you, it’s going to work out after, if they don’t, then it’s on to the next one. Postponing or holding out on sex is like avoiding the truth. It’s the same story whether you met online or offline. But strangely, the men I spoke to all felt like it was the women who made the whole thing feel weird.
With all this inter-connectedness comes some incest.